Ever feel like you are not enough? Always judging yourself and your abilities?
It seems like your self-esteem might have taken a hit. With the uncertainty brought about by the pandemic, it is no surprise that many are feeling even more unsure about themselves.
We all want to feel confident and worthwhile. People who have healthy self-esteem have a balanced and accurate view of themselves. They have a good understanding of both their abilities and limitations.
Confident people have a positive outlook on life and accept themselves for who they are. They bounce back from rejections more quickly and are less vulnerable to anxiety compared to others.
Self-esteem affects every facet of your life. With a little practice, you can be happier and more confident. Here are 5 techniques you can use to build long-lasting self-esteem:
The next time your self-esteem suffers a blow, make a list of your positive traits in that particular context to encourage yourself. Remind yourself of your positive traits and achievements! For example, if you get rejected for a work promotion, list qualities that make you a great employee and list your past achievements at work.
2. Set realistic goals
Set goals that are not too easy or challenging according to your abilities and weaknesses. Stop constantly comparing yourself to others and trying to measure up to them. Set realistic standards according to your own benchmark to achieve goals.
3. Find and develop your strengths
Build up your self-esteem by finding strengths that matter to you and developing them. Look for opportunities and careers that can help you to develop and emphasise them!
4. Forgive & encourage yourself
When you make a mistake, learn to forgive yourself. Everybody makes mistakes so don’t be so hard on yourself. Even if things don’t go as well as you planned, encourage yourself by giving yourself credit for trying.
5. Accept compliments
Learning to accept compliments can be tough when you feel like you are not worthy of such high praise. You may be used to rejecting or doubting the validity of such compliments, but it is important to accept them with a “Thank you” or “That’s so nice of you to say”, as you will start to believe these compliments over time.